恐怖片

(本文打的比較混亂,廣東字較多,外地的朋友請見諒,我心很急的時候也顧不了文法啦。)

今晚的《星期二檔案》,是我看過最恐怖的恐怖片!好恐怖!我是驚到真的眼濕濕,真濕果隻。


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今集主題講「中女」,正確點來說是「剩女」或者「敗犬」,訪問一班有經濟能力、20到尾至40歲的女人,點解,無男人要!

嘩我一路睇一路驚,慘了,我也是一枚中女喎 (28歲都比人叫中女o架啦依家)!我都係 single 喎!仲要慘到人家就算無男人都有錢,我又無錢又無男人,連做「敗犬」都唔 qualified 喎!

被訪者一堆,看了更是覺得自己好大鑊,而且係「好很大鑊」:有能力如地產經紀女強人 (33 歲有 3 層樓揸手,我連一格階磚都買唔起);美女如空姐 Queenie;聰明如美女電台主持彭晴,個個都單身!!哇我呢o的靚又唔夠人靚又唔後生又唔青春又無身材又無錢連性格都唔多可愛,是否死得?

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看了節目很感慨,突發性抑鬱來襲。

在 MSN 的 status 寫道:「睇《星期二檔案》睇到眼濕濕。」

好姊妹 X 先生 5 分鐘後立即來電安慰,怕我胡思亂想,「喂妳都要擴闊下妳生活圈子,多o的溝仔先得o架嘛!」

我都想!但係去邊度識先得o格??

以下是本文的中心問題,就是,如何認識多o的(正常)男人?

A) 工作地點?不可能啦!我公司全女班,加上我一向認為「響果度食唔好響果屙」,就算溝個客,都唔好。

B) 揾o的興趣班讀下?N 世紀前我在法國文化協會讀法文,大約 20 人一班,19個女生,1個男生,男的還要是陪女朋友來上課,仲要好明顯係被逼果隻。......OKOK,唔讀書,定還是你覺得上跳舞班會比較有機?

C) 做運動?嗱嗱嗱,我有做 gym 有去 gym room o架,不過唔知點解成個「加州」都係 gay 佬之嘛。

D) 做室外運動?這個我實在抱歉,游水羽毛球網球足球籃球桌球......我通通不會。

E) 蒲?咪玩啦,成場嫩口脆卜卜十八廿二 cute cute 妹妹,比人叫做 auntie 就無謂啦。(well,想當年我十八廿二時都的確覺得 30 歲係叫做「好老」的,現在知死了。)

D) 打機?OK,我的確知道好多男人有打機的習慣,不過我應該玩咩 game?難道玩勁舞團嗎?

......好啦,你答我,應該怎樣做?

55 則留言:

Cooking Meow 說...

我都岩岩睇左。
睇完就有兩個字浮左係個腦到 - 死啦
中女如我, 無樣貌無學識無身材無事業無身家
應該點做好呢.. 真係R爆頭都唔掂..

睇黎都係save定0的姑婆本...

素顏天使™ 說...

Cooking Meow > 小姐妳得 25 歲未到中女喎.......

Winnie 說...

I was in the same situation few years ago (28yrs old)! In Canada there's a few online dating site that finds your match based on your personality and values. I found my husband online! (married when 31) Not sure if HK has similar kind of service??

KLY 說...

睇完你依篇blog再睇翻高登果邊既討論,感覺好極端....

打機既話其實可以試下去PS3/Xbox360果邊既...~

Alex 說...

I think it's important to keep in contact with friends at school. When one (both men and women) reaches a certain age (especially after a few failures in relationships), it's difficult to approach love with a completely open heart and that's big obstacle for a steady and long-term relationship. For friends you got to know when you were young, however, it's easier to hold a open attitude towards them (hopefully).

Start looking seriously and early also. Once wrote an article about why women should seek serious relationship no latter than 25. I think it's still true considering both the physiological and social factors. If one starts too late, all the men around are already married and it's no fun to be involved in an affair.

Hong Kong has too much supply also. I know quite some high-quality men (nerds/geeks) in Silicon Valley having trouble seeking wives since there're too few women. No use though if you're not into nerds/geeks :P

素顏天使™ 說...

Winnie > 我都有朋友係 thru online dating website 識到現任老公,幸福快樂,連仔都生埋 lu....不過呢o的o野好似 urban legend 咁,萬中無一囉。

KLY > 高登唔睇都估到講咩啦,總之中女無仔就一定係條女有問題,下一句就「中出即飛」丫嘛~ 唉~

Alex > 1)我讀女校, 同學全部係女o黎呀~

2) 哇 nerds 同 geeks 點會係女人心目中 o既 high quality men 呀........個人悶o的文靜o的 OK,但你去到 geeks 呢o的 level 好嚴重喎.......

3) "...all the men around are already married and it's no fun to be involved in an affair." <--莫非你老婆有睇我 blog? Alex 太太你好 :)

Alex 說...

> 1)我讀女校, 同學全部係女o黎呀~

Haha too bad. But university friends are still good (your university isn't 女校 right? :P)

> 2) 哇 nerds 同 geeks 點會係女人心目中 o既 high quality men 呀........個人悶o的文靜o的 OK,但你去到 geeks 呢o的 level 好嚴重喎.......

"Geek" is actually quite a positive term here in CA. At least, they love computers so much that they don't have time to have a mistress. Also, some of them are quite rich too (those in Silicon Valley I mean, not me) :P

assenav 說...

I couldn't agree more on Queenie's point at last... 豪比你...

匿名 說...

I can't agree more!

朋友經常叫我識多d人啦,學下野啦,擴闊下生活圈子啦,其實日日返工搏鬥真係連普通飯局都無力去,就算去,都係girls talk。

又...當真係有個好okay既新朋友,唔知點解,十居其九都係...又多一個好buddy,可以一齊討論仔仔囉!

咁可以點?真係唔知喎!



[唔係想匿名但係真係無網址喎...]

匿名 說...

I met my husband by speed-dating when I was 32 in HK. I was v patience to attend speed-dating for 6 mths. True, some guys are weird. But u never know what will happen next.

Good luck

說...

十個認同!!我也有嘗試去擴闊,不過太刻意,見仔正正常常即做主動不是太低了嗎?我又覺得,其實係現在的香港男性太唔主動!家係香港剩女太多他們覺得自己不用太花心機?

IamMiss無糖 說...

我尋晚都被人問左幾次有無睇,26歲已經半隻腳叉左落中女社架喇,又無錢無樓無男友,自己都愈諗愈驚,係咪應該是但搵個上車算?但上到車唔夾再落車一樣慘,隨時仲慘過未上過車囉...雖然影片上大家都話中女so what,但現實既壓力我會覺得30歲已經係deadline甘款..

didi 說...

素顏有冇睇過一個作家叫「女王」,佢既文章多數講中女,睇完個人真係會「通左」。

中女又如何, 只要自己過得開心, 中女比少女來得更好, 唔止心態, 金錢成熟左, 對於好多野都睇得更多...

現時既社會, 有男友/老公都唔代表一生一世, 反而我認同女人要有錢, 當然唔係永無休止果隻貪錢啦....

Fun 說...

點呀.. 廿八歲已經咁驚?!咁過多三幾年分分鐘廿五都係中女啦喎~

其實莫講中女, 我呢亭中仔都係好驚架喎~

所以.. 套用黎明金句:拍拖同見鬼一樣,都係講緣份!

共勉之~

hoyoyi 說...

大家甘话。。。。
但是近来男人的素质真的不好。。。
虽然自己不是什么美人,又没有金。
难道要随便找吗?

自己的快乐自己负责任,最起码我们要活得开心阿。。。

I am turning 32 this year

篤篤篤撐 說...

去青年中心, 去做義工, 大把仔 !!!!

Ting 說...

其實好多男士都面對同樣問題 (包括我,雖然我未到「中男」)
其仔人咪淨係識不負責地丢下一句「擴闊下生活圈子啦」,點擴姐…

素顏天使™ 說...

Alex > 我無讀大學,係咪無讀大學就唔比識男朋友?

無論 nerds 點有錢都好,溝通唔到溝通唔到,佢有錢又關我咩事呢?by the way,香港地 nerds / geeks 果o的叫做「毒男」......

assenav > you know me, 我豪左好耐, 豪來豪去都係咁樣.

多 > 我身邊都好多條件好好又善解人意人又生得靚又識照顧女仔又好 gentleman 的 single 男人.......不過全部都係...之嘛.

匿名 9:09 上午 > 呢個我都有諗過, 但係去 speed dating 會唔會個樣又 desperate 得滯呢?

秀 > (好果o的)香港男人唔係唔主動,只係佢地好多 choice 囉,通常都未到佢地出手就大把女主動埋身 lu~

IamMiss 無糖 > 係囉,求其執件的話,到時拍幾年拍左又散又唔結婚咁咪又無幾年時間?到時就中女變熟女o添啦~~~

didi > 女王<--無睇過呀,台灣架?

Fun > 你係咪都係聽好多果o的「你咁靚/好條件/好乜乜物物,唔洗驚啦,大把人溝你啦你眼角高 ji ma」呢類說話呢?我聽完每次都翻白眼,咁有人 approach 同有「對的人」approach 係兩回事黎架嘛......

hoyoyi > 就算你個心真係諗呀我自己開心咪 ok 囉唔洗點點點,但係久唔久就會有o的人呀電視呀黎「reminds」你,你點成功都好你無仔你就係 loser!:(

篤篤篤撐 > 我真係有做過義工o架!!不過香港o的男人唔得閒啦可能,成個義工團 10 幾人,得 1 個男仔......仲要係樓上講果o的 nerds 黎......

Ting > 我諗成句o既真正意思係:弟弟你可以擴闊下溝女個 range,識o的年紀大過你o既女仔囉,有無睇《敗犬女王》呀......

Fun 說...

你係咪都係聽好多果o的「你咁靚/好條件/好乜乜物物,唔洗驚啦,大把人溝你啦你眼角高 ji ma」>> 都係架.. 不過聽完個心仲實左囉~ =="

咁有人 approach 同有「對的人」approach 係兩回事黎架嘛 >> exact-7-ly!!!!

另外我既問題係生活圈子已經好x闊,而家d人反而覺得我識得太多人,對我(同佢自己)無信心,覺得我只會顧住d朋友,慢慢闊大既生活圈子反而變成我既負累..

大佬,呢d係咪好擔心唔擔心呀,你係date我唔係我d frd喎,同埋我無得un-識d frd架下嘛,識左就係識左..

唉,試都唔試就放棄,我好sad呀!

素顏天使™ 說...

Fun > 咁我識人都唔少,不過全部都係女黎之嘛......一係你試下唔好再寫o的生日 party 扮無食過o的飯會唔會好少少? XD

仲有我聽過一個「你咁出名(!!!)又見晒樣咁人地點會o黎溝你呀,溝女梗係要收埋靜靜食架啦」首先我完全唔覺得自己出名,再講,出名原來都係一條罪黎??? 簡單的黎講係的男人要揾藉口就乜叉都係罪黎架啦~~

Ting 說...

Fun > 咁你唔好俾人知你生活圈子有咁x闊嘛…

匿名 說...

匿名 9:09 上午 > 呢個我都有諗過, 但係去 speed dating 會唔會個樣又 desperate 得滯呢?

Desperate? Just a chance to meet more guys. Don't take it seriously. U need to search Jobsdb for finding jobs. Just another platform to meet new guys. Some guys are pretty weird and funny. Enjoy~~

徐斯 說...

「你咁靚/好條件/好乜乜物物,唔洗驚啦,大把人溝你啦你眼角高 ji ma」
>>一聽到呢句就想打人!原來有問題o個個原來係我!?查實從來冇高過囉頂...

不過我認同香港d男人唔主動,maybe真係太多choices,根本揀極都有...結果係男士扮矝持!?

Ting 說...

「揀極都有」咁跨張?

徐斯 說...

Ting>>佢地可以放眼神州,十三億人口喎...
其中1/4已經好夠揀...

Ting 說...

徐斯 > 咁放眼神州又係第二回事…

Fun 說...

總之男既好女既好直既好孿既好.. 各人都有各人問題同難處啦..

如果撫心自問覺得問題唔響自己度,都係唯有講個句聽完都係想死既:緣份未到啦!

最後我有個問題問..

大家會唔會諗諗下會諗.. 其實自己真係需要有一個人丫定只係人有自己都要有呢?

我俾d人搞到有少少confused!

P 說...

仲有一批男人係覺得「好哋哋做乜要拍拖結婚攞唻煩? 我家陣一條佬輕鬆又自在!」

我識好多呢種男人,全部係三十前後月入幾萬份工都叫見得人同埋 OK 穩定的。

匿名 說...

"我都想!但係去邊度識先得o格??"
冇錯!!!!!
識果D又個個都好似唔恨拍拖咁 (思想又似小弟弟), 自己又係主動果type, 都唔知點算..!!

ケロン星小公主 說...

其實有部分男人都好驚搵唔到好o既終身伴侶(有o的都係因為曾經被人傷得好深)

希望你虎年搵到岩心水 LA

小啤 說...

Actually geeks are very good husbands.. they don't have much hobbies, or only focus in some healthy activities (like board games, chess, bridge). A lot of my friends (including myself) marry a geek early and all are having a happy & stable family life now.

Consider geeks and maybe you will have an unexpectable happy outcome.

P.S. I have some geek friends in the bay area too.

小啤 說...

素顏天使,

How do you define high quality guys? Do only high quality guys can be good husband and share the rest of the life with you?

Most of the time, high quality guys are defined as being good looking, earning good money, smart, caring, successful, have a wide range of hobbies and interesting to be with and all those qualities not necessary are the same qualities when you pick a good husband.

K 說...

"自己又係主動果type"
打錯, 應該係"又唔係"...

補充: 好奇怪, 離開女校之後覺得同男仔相處易D, 但頂龍都淨係做到buddy... 都唔知點解!!

篤篤篤撐 說...

篤篤篤撐 > 我真係有做過義工o架!!不過香港o的男人唔得閒啦可能,成個義工團 10 幾人,得 1 個男仔......仲要係樓上講果o的 nerds 黎......
>>>>>>你去我果檔啦, ok ka, 有d~~~

kakakakaka

Alex 說...

> 我無讀大學,係咪無讀大學就唔比識男朋友?

Sorry I didn't mean that.. Please don't misunderstand.

Haha 小啤 you're reading this also. It looks like people in HK define nerds/geeks a little bit different from we do. If it means 毒男, they are:

- 沒有自信的人
- 沒有個性和內涵的人
- 不懂浪漫的人
- 未曾拍拖的人
- 愛上網的人
- 內向的人
- 樸素節儉的人
- 不愛外出玩樂的人
- 社會地位低的人
- 無錢的人
- 愛看動漫的人
- 批評港女的人

From the above list, except "沒有自信" and "沒有個性和內涵", all of them describe me quite well (I was once "未曾拍拖" too).

Nerds/geeks are probably not good lovers since they usually don't have a sense of romance. However, their boring character & the ability to endure boredom, which are ironically important for a long-term relationship, makes them a good husband.

How do I know? I'm a nerd too so I know :)

匿名 說...

我都係中女. 今年35 . 我已經有老公同兩個小朋友 (個仔3歲; 個女6個月). 我29歲結婚. 我記得我同媽咪講結婚時, 她好似唔覺意舒左一口氣. 所以我明白家庭的pressure 有幾大…. 廢話講完. 去番正題, 我有好多單身小學/ 中學/ 大學女同學. 樣貌娟好. 品格善良. 正當工作. 就不知為什麼仍是單身. 有幾個直情無拍過拖. 我又想過介紹男仔(e.g. 我先生的朋友or 同事) 俾佢地. 但我先生叫我唔好多事. 哎呀!

如果講佢地讀書時無識到男仔又唔對. 有幾個係大學讀engineering, maths. 全班男仔. 得幾個女仔. 無緣就無緣.

再者我同男仔朋友傾計時, 佢地單身. 都係3x歲. 佢都係選擇25-30歲為女朋友. 佢覺得自己唔搵10幾已經好好. 佢認到佢4x 時, 佢都係選擇25-30歲為女朋友

joanne

** 飛雪素素 ** 說...

Fun,

我識有個男人都係生活圈子太闊,我見佢真係好努力咁去add friends 同識女仔,本來都唔覺太大問題,直到我見到佢身邊啲幾好嘅女仔個個都最後會揀咗同其他男人拍拖結婚,都唔揀佢,就算係啲條件唔係好好又年紀比佢大嘅女人都reject佢,我開始懷疑佢其實冇想象中咁好。

而嗰啲女仔只會同佢flirt吓呀,social吓呀,但最後都係揀啲冇咁hard sell自己嘅男人(即唔會在FB放好多相呀,留好多comments呀),即唔係social butterfly type.

其實我自己都感覺如果同佢一齊,我可能只會係佢嘅付屬品。 未拍拖都發現佢對朋友比對自己還好,有心理準備以後會變本加厲。感覺好似女友/老婆只會係維繫佢美好人生的一個棋子。

** 飛雪素素 ** 說...

素顏天使,

其實加州啲男仔真係唔錯,唔係講笑。加州男女比率四比一 (四個男人先得一個女人)。 去到一定變身成為無敵女神。

juicejanis 說...

HALO* 我咁岩路過
我尋晚都睇左小小星期二檔案
呢個topic好吸引我!

你唔使擔心, 你唔算遲架啦
照你咁講, 你唔係冇人中意
中意你既大有人在!
只係你未比機會佢地發現到你姐!
扮多d靚(我估你都係扮靚能手黎架啦)
去多d social, 或者做下義工咁
呢個世界咁大, 大把機會識男仔
我諗好多男仔會中意你呢一類既:) 比d信心!

匿名 說...

I am a Catholic. I leave things to God. I think some people are just being paranoid & tries to frigtened others into getting into marriage life. Not everyone is happy after getting married.

匿名 說...

'好姊妹 X 先生'? 人地會以為我係gay...

-___-"

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素顏天使™ 說...

(忽然間咁多留言!!)

Fun > 我諗 50/50 啦~

P > 更多係「拍左好耐拖死都唔肯結婚因為唔明點解要改變現狀但條女就黎 35 屋企催到佢暈」。

ケロン星小公主 > 咁我覺得比人 hurt 過都唔係籍口o黎嘅,人人都受過情傷o架啦,唔通一世 single 咩~

小啤 > 首先我**從來無**講過要揾 high-quality men,係上一位 Alex 講開話覺得 nerd/geeks = high-quality men 我先覆佢我唔喜歡 nerds 啫。

高唔高質對我o黎講比較次要,最緊要係溝唔溝通到;nerds/geeks speaks different languages as I do (係呀佢地係外星人,唔該晒~),溝唔到呀真係~~~~ 有 $ 靚仔梗係好,邊個唔想?但果o的係 bonus 嘛~

篤篤篤撐 > 好丫!我認真o架喎,橫掂呢排得閒~

Alex > um......簡單o的o黎講,個人悶/唔係好主動/唔講o野/唔浪漫,我都絕對 ok,對我o黎講果o的亦都唔係叫 nerds,只係內向。

但唔係外表核核突突果o的「呢啡」毒男,點呀?見到都食唔落飯,佢係咪好老公關我咩事啫?

joanne > 係呀,黃金不變定律:無論個男人幾多歲,有得揀,梗係食嫩野啦!

** 飛雪素素 ** > 你講果個加州響美國黎喎呀囡~~XDDD 我講果個加州響我屋企樓下有一間。

juicejanis > 承妳貴言啦......

匿名 4:13 下午 > 但當個世界都係傾向「結左婚 = Happily ever after」既時候,有時無論你個人有幾堅定相信「單身都可以好開心」,聽得多都會好動搖呀~

X > 呢度得我識得你啫,咁唔姊妹咪兄弟囉 XD

F君 說...

呀舊同學,驚呢D人之常情,都唔止中女先黎得驚的...我又何嘗唔驚,由驚會進化到到唔想理啦!至於果D擴大生活圈子野,都係算X數!

bakingmaniac 說...

邊個話做TWIT會唔開心?其實有仔無仔,生活3一樣要過。最緊要自己生活質素okay又滿足。你話我阿Q都係咁話。無人鍚,自己錫自己。

ECHO 說...

我猜都有男人適逢中年但仍是單身,不過他們可能因為社會的價值觀而不直接表達自己的內心感受,有時"估心理"遊戲,男人比女人玩得更叻~

匿名 說...

this topic is very interesting. i think i am same as you.haha. =D always think of where to know more friends, because not many of youngster in the office,most of the time hang out with girlfriends. dont know any of sports, that's y i only can go for aerobic or gym. and why seems like everybody put the 30 as the deadline? we can live happily actualy, why must know a guy to married? u know, most of the good man already married. agree? but i think we should always look forward..

Tram Tram 說...

我都睇到驚呀! 人又開始老,錢又搵極都冇,平時約朋友出街食飯都仲可以,到搵人一齊去旅行先知大劑!

損友竟然力勸不如返教會,痴線咩!

人到咁上下年紀就連「出去識朋友」個股熱誠都冇乜,通宵一晚都攞命啦! 學人玩姐弟戀,除左比一眾高登巴打笑「驅風良品」外,分分鐘連「中出即飛」既機會都冇呀!

我諗連去所謂既「單身派對」都係大把女咋

唉,莫問你在選擇人,人亦同選擇你

啱傾既唔係有老婆就係基,唉! 即使俾你搵到又點,難保佢他日又會變心。

Anna Scott 說...

其實,女人有錢傍身緊要過有男人
我係中女,冇節目入面d美女咁叻
叫做有層樓,收入穩定,好聽叫做專業人士咁
曾經好似大家咁徬徨
朋友都好擔心,想比埋錢我去參加speed dating
不過唔可以是但執一個返去激自己
寧缺勿濫

enjoy single life!!!!
既來之,則安之~

匿名 說...

唔駛驚
當你過左30歲
感情都係無著落
就唔會再驚
咁恨有拖拍架勒

我今年都33
無錢無樓又唔靚
但家下咩都睇化哂
(想唔化都唔得)
有D野強求都無用
就算俾你識到
都未必將來會同你結婚生仔拉
無男人錫
米自己對自己好D O羅

匿名 說...

hey, this is hilda. first time to leave ya msg.

for me, i believe there should be an "automatic-restart button" when i get into 30s (well, few years to go haha) and everything will be back to square one and restart again.

and i am impressed by what winnie said in the programme, sth like "到 50, 60 歲到時就有到時既 market, 駛唔駛咁快認命先?!"

i dun 認命 either.
yay, still young, still pretty!

hil xoxo

匿名 說...

我都係中女一名(30), 屋企方面都好體諒我,冇咩壓力 反而D朋友(十居其九都嫁左)就好緊張, 「過份」關心我既感情狀況同有冇著落, 攪到我而家索性連gathering都唔想去,廢事俾人煩...

Pepper 說...

真係好得人驚......

匿名 說...

喂各位, 看开D,我36岁,直头係败犬女皇,但我开心。当然,有人照顾会好一D,但好多时拍拖比我D烦恼重多过单身。最重要是现在快乐和为自己未来着想。要找到自己的兴趣。真的,如果你投入做一件事,你会发现就算你没有男朋友,你的生活也过得开心。同时,你会最有机会在你喜欢去的地方和活动找到你的伴侣。认真的,为自己打算,要自己快乐,不要因为一点点的不完美而忧心,你会活得精彩和漂亮的。很多人对我们多JEALOUS。HOHO

鰻魚 說...

哈,其實我唔介意人地睇我係中女,總之我Always stay young,覺得自己係十八廿二就 Ok ~

其實唔要單身唔係真係咁難,只不過要搵個同你兩情相悅既人一生一世就真係好難。

愛情,如果係冇一生一世既話,就唔好拍望搵到一個人令你開心,應該係自己令自己開心。當時,最後搵到個人同你一齊生活就最好,但無的話,至少一個人生活都一樣過得開心。

P 說...

hey voluntary work is a good option!